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A Random DiaBlog
'I am who I say I am
Because what I say I am
That is who I am’ Ⓒ
Demeter Don't Cry
Iambe was the Greek Goddess of Play and Poetry, the daughter of Pan and Echo.
One day, whilst working close to the city of Athens, Iambe met Demeter. Demeter had come down to earth from the heavens, consumed with grief for the loss of her daughter Persephone, who was with Hades in the underworld. Demeter was not eating, drinking, talking or smiling and this was also depleting and destroying the surrounding lands. In one account, Iambe in an act of sisterhood, connects and communicates with Demeter’s heart by flashing at her and telling jokes, which shocks Demeter, makes her laugh and transforms her state of grief! Demeter begins to eat, drink and smile again, which restores balance and harmony to the lands and people around.
So why am I writing about this peculiar event? In 2017, I developed a 'communication and connection' model for families, partners, business … well everyone and was searching for a word to encompass these two words. At one point, as I often do, I looked up to the sky and requested a word and 3 days later IAmBe arrived at Waterloo Station.
Sipping tea and waiting for a grieving friend in a coffee shop called BeNuGo upstairs at Waterloo, I considered this name. Was it a play on words - be nu go? My Random Dialogues partner and I had also been reciting a mantra linked to our combined transformational BeSayDoHaveⒸ model:
‘I am who I say I AM
Because what I say I am
That is who I am’ Ⓒ
So in the spaces, I questioned who ‘I am BEing’ and played with these words and created IamBE. Upon Googling it I found out she was the goddess who communicates and connects through Play and Poetry, how perfect and random, this is exactly what I do as a #FrustrationExpert. Frustration leads to Breakthroughs.
What a great way to BE.
To BE Or Not To BE?
‘Iambic’ verse also stems from Iambe's name and her jokes and playful nature, it was often used by Shakespeare in his plays and sonnets, an example being ‘To Be or not to Be’.
'I Am that I Am' the common English translation of the response God used in the Hebrew Bible when Moses asked for his name (Exodus 3:14).
Incase you are wondering, I won't be flashing.
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Workshops and classes coming up in 2017 for adults
Mind Less Full Workshop Using the IAMBE behaviour model
February 8th Refresh Café 11.30am - 1.00pm
How to 'Be' Positive & Playful
Wednesday 22nd March 10.00am - 12.00pm
Mind Less Full Workshop Using the IAMBE behaviour model
Wednesday 19th April – 7.00pm - 9.00pm Guildford
Family Connection, Communication & Core Values using the IAMBE Model.
Thursday 18th May 7.00pm - 9.00pm
How to Be Positive and Playful
Thursday 15th June 7.00pm - 9.00pm
How to Get Motivated & Stay Motivated.
Wednesday 20th September 11.00am - 1.00pm
The IAMBE approach for families - Connection, Communication & Core Values
Thursday 19th October 7.00pm - 9.00pm
visit also www.randomdialogues.com
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Calm, joy, success, emotional balance?
Is that what you really want?
If you could explore ways to respond powerfully to all the events in your life, How would it be?
Do you communicate and connect from your core values?
This will be interactive, fun. A magical workshop. Come learn simple and powerful ways to BE and DO.
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Classes for May to July 2016-
Weyfield Primary School
3.00pm - 4.00pm
7 to 11 years
Piglets Play Centre, Hersham
1.45pm - 2.15pm
3 - 5 years
£10 per session to include entry to soft play
Sutherland Park Hall, Burpham, GU4 7JU
8th June through to 13th July
4.15 pm- 5.15pm
7 to 11
£7 per class or 6 weeks @ £30
St John’s Community Centre, Merrow, GU4 7AA,
9th June through to 14th July
1.30pm to 2.15pm
3 - 5 years
£6 per class or £30 for 6 weeks
I also offer family yoga and if you have space and/or can gather a group together I can also do Pop Up Yoga within the Guildford area. Please call me on 07768 392686 or email email@example.com
Today's talk from Esther Ekhart was on the Yama 'Aparigha'
Non Possessiveness - 'Not me, mine, I'
A form of non-attachment where we are not afraid to gain or loose things
We feel more alive and enriched because we just allow it to be as it is
We are just open to what is there and we just notice.
If we have a goal that's still OK, we are not attached to the outcome but notice the process along the way, we are present with each step and how it is.
In this way we feel more alive
By letting go of what we don't need, we create a space for the things we do need to come to us.
How do we stop running around in circles chasing the nice feelings, possessions and emotions whilst also running away from the emotions and feelings and things we don't like.
How do we become open and accepting to each moment?
There are eight limbs to yoga, the first are the 'Yamas' essentially these are how we deal with the world, how we interact with it/our ethical behaviours.
Note the term 'limbs' not steps, each limb co-exists and is co-dependent on the other.
One of the Yamas is 'Asteya' - Non-Stealing
'mankind's greed and craving for artificial needs are also stealing' - Gandhi
When lack, desire, emptiness, greed and want arise we start to feel like something is missing and we aren't complete.. We start to look to fill the gaps. Perhaps we long for food, handbags, money, love, a new home, shoes, booze, clothes etc. This often creates a cycle, the more we have the more we feel we need.
How do we let go of longing? When we long for something it's often a feeling we have already experienced, so it's a feeling we can find within ourselves again and recreate. Longing doesn't have to be a bad thing, allow yourself to experience it and let it be there and notice it. Longing can sometimes be painful as it can be about loss also, just be with the experience and notice it, identify what it is.
But we may not always like this feeling/sensation so how do we ease it? It's about learning to say 'I am enough, I have enough' and finding a way to have a sense of physical and mental wellbeing and growing an abundance mindset.
To be open and accepting to exactly how things are and to bring awareness to the moment.
Practice saying - I am enough, I am at home in me.
Sit in meditation a couple of times a week and observe your longing, notice it, explore it, and put some of this perspective on it.
With this post I have committed 'Asteya' in that I have stolen ideas from books, blogs, videos etc that I have watched about the Yamas and this part of it to try to understand it. You are now reading this and stealing it too I want you to.
Whilst at my mums for Sunday Roast I spotted her 'Woman and Home' magazine and found myself really enjoying it. My mum passes them onto my 95 year old Nan, it's great we all like it now but I'm not so sure they like me muscling in. I asked if they would mind if I cut out a few things for my 'women who inspire me' journal. Luckily my Nan has a lovely sense of humour and is now enjoying reading the scrappy leftover bits in the magazine. She also has whole copies of Womans Own and Womans Weekly to keep her occupied for now. I love my Nan.
Recently, my mum said to me - 'never do something that is not in line with your heart and values'. My mum is very special. This quote was pasted into the journal.
In the magazine, there was a section about Helen Mirren, she is 70 and has a tattoo and wears cool clothes, she says - 'it's important for women to have positive female role models. She also went onto say 'there's no big moment of wisdom' as you get older. You learn about yourself according to the age you are and each age has its qualities, both positive and negative. You have to deal with each one as it comes - Cut and Stick.
Another decisive snip for the journal was an article from regular columnist, Karren Brady, who wrote an article on 'Decision Making' -
'Many decisions come down to a choice of courage or comfort - you can't have both ...
Someone once told me that there are many cheap seats in the world. These are the seats far away from the action, where people sit at a distance and criticise others who are having a go at life. The people in these seats never risk anything or get close to the action. Ignore these people, they have no value.
I can assure you that as someone who has had a real go at making something of my life, that being daring enough to make decisions is not about winning or losing. It's about never quitting. Having a go at life starts when you have the boldness to make your own decisions'
As I wrote this I also thought a lot about Victoria Wood, also a beautiful soul and role model, she's in the journal too.
In yoga one of the Eight Limbs of Yoga are the 'Yamas' and one of these is 'Asteya' - 'non stealing' I'll write about it next but one thing to develop is an abundance mindset - to truly appreciate all that you have already to prevent you longing for more. Another for the journal - 'You Are Enough, You Have Enough'
So whilst looking for female role model inspiration it really dawned on me that it's all around in my own family, friends and me, we are enough, I haven't written about you all here but you are in my head and heart.
Cheers to all the amazing women who surround us.
Cut, Paste, Stick.
I Meditate - It's Good For My Head
Rather than the 4.30am birds twittering to wake me, it was my husband's phone vibrating to announce he'd received a new 'tweet'
So I came down and meditated in my corner, wrote my affirmations and 'morning pages' and this fell out my head -
Under my blanket
I sit in stillness, finding the space and silence between busy thoughts
A buzz, a whirr, a cheep, a humm, a motor
And now images of friends in my head
I allow them to pass through
They come back they want to engage,
So gently I nudge them away
'Friends I'm meditating and can't connect right now'
Oh no they are back, they are very persistent
'Hello, that's it move along just GO, Shoo!'
For a bit
1,2,3,4,5, back aches
I notice the tip of my nose and count here
Because I read this was good to do.
25, 26, 27, 28
26, 27, 28
I think I already counted these ones
Now an itch
Back to my nose
Even if it takes 1000 times come back to your breath says Jon Kabat Zinn
What a wise man
OK good I'm back
42, 42, 44,45. 99, 100.
1000 ready or not
46, 47, 48, 49
Might have a boiled egg after this
Oh hello again thoughts
I'm meditating, yes I'm a Meditator don't you know this is what I do
It's good for my head
That's it done.
NB Despite this being a very typical meditation for me for up to an hour, when I don't do it I don't feel so full of energy, bounce, joy, playfulness, love and optimism. Days I don't do it I get more overwhelmed, stressed and reactive.
So on balance I feel it must be doing something. I miss it when I don't!