We love seeing our Auntie Sally and cousins Joel, Sammy and Alanah. They are lovely role models for our children in so many ways, they have always been such kind, happy, patient and in the moment children (they will laugh when they read this).
I've seen a lot of blog feeds the past few days about being grateful, setting goals, making plans etc as I'm sure you all have. In the past I've tried writing 3 or more things I was grateful for each day and it was great while it lasted but I didn't sustain my enthusiasm! However I do still naturally find myself thinking in this way and noticing things more so I guess despite not writing it religiously it's worked on some level. I am keen we keep a gratitude jar this month and suggested it during our family meeting today. You'd think I'd asked them to give up their tablets for a month, it went down like a lead balloon, but I'll give it a go and even if we don't write it on post-its and just say what we are grateful for well I am just curious to see how we get on.
With Paul's family I used to think it was quite painful and tedious how long they used to have to take opening one present. We'd have to take it in turns and watch the receiver struggling with the cellotape and wrapping paper after which it took another 5 minutes of them appreciating it. I was used to having a massive pile infront of me ripping them all open and looking at them later, so I did still engage with them but not at that moment. But now I so love this lesson in mindfulness the Tysons have taught me. Paul is an amazing present buyer, incredibly thoughtful with all his gifts and so appreciative of things generally, they have helped me over the years to slow down and notice more.
Yesterday when we had our New Year's Eve Christmas with them Joel who is 19 opened his calendar and I just watched the time he took to appreciate it, enjoy it and give thanks to Nanny Gill and Tom. I felt very inspired and this attitude of gratitude has encouraged me to always encourage my children to slow down and notice and take time over their gifts as I'd love them to get to 19 and behave in this way.
Tomorrow is a mystery, yesterday is history, but today is a gift.