In January 2015 I wrote that I was going to keep shaking things up and if I found myself in too many routines or rutts I'd change the journey as much as desirable.
This year February is my new January.
I read my friend Lisa's (Smiley Coach) newsletter this week and it really resonated with me. In January I really don't feel much like going on a diet, hitting the gym or writing new goals. This month my mind and body have felt like resting, releasing and reconfiguring.
I'm sure if I understood more about Ayervedic medicine it would be the right thing to do?
My yoga teacher Yvette, said that tonight's full moon might inspire us more to think about our goals and the way forward.
I did get my goal/affirmation book out yesterday, if felt like a natural thing to do rather than a should do/ought to moment and has got me thinking about the year ahead finally.
I like the note below about the moon. One of my key words this year is independence, the others are release, shine and love. I've pinned the words to my door.
What mood has January created for you, where has the pendulum swung? Are you feeling like you should have done stuff or did you honour your true feelings?
My son said to me that he had his hand up a lot in class and wasn't getting answered and it was bothering him. He is bright, enthusiastic, energetic, slightly hormonal and more sensitive than usual. I asked him why it was so important to put his hand up and get his questions answered, how did it make him feel when they were etc I said it's quite a skill in life to sometimes not always have to be right and to seek approval. Perhaps it's good to pause, step back, find some space and inner silence and let someone else have a go, does it really matter?
I think it's important to acknowledge the teacher within ourselves and to give ourselves a pat on the back at times. Someone taught me to turn to my heart and say : 'you are OK, I love you' Perhaps from our early years we are conditioned to seek external validation and praise to make us feel good, is this just human nature?
My 'soul coach' Marina Dustov, told me that 2016 was the year for many to let their own stars come out, to release their ego and personality more and to let their souls shine from within to reach a higher potential. She said we need to trust our own internal balance and authority, acknowledge how we are feeling and the drama it sometimes creates but release it back. Let go of attachments to the opinions of others.
So whilst I take on boards these thoughts, I'm also teaching my children to do the same, I frequently tell them how much I love them but importantly I feel, I teach them to love themselves also - it's an inside job. Instead of putting his hand up Luke can perhaps take strength and comfort more from himself.
Where can you let your soul shine this week, what value can you add to yourself and to others?
If you have any thoughts always lovely to hear from you x
We love seeing our Auntie Sally and cousins Joel, Sammy and Alanah. They are lovely role models for our children in so many ways, they have always been such kind, happy, patient and in the moment children (they will laugh when they read this).
I've seen a lot of blog feeds the past few days about being grateful, setting goals, making plans etc as I'm sure you all have. In the past I've tried writing 3 or more things I was grateful for each day and it was great while it lasted but I didn't sustain my enthusiasm! However I do still naturally find myself thinking in this way and noticing things more so I guess despite not writing it religiously it's worked on some level. I am keen we keep a gratitude jar this month and suggested it during our family meeting today. You'd think I'd asked them to give up their tablets for a month, it went down like a lead balloon, but I'll give it a go and even if we don't write it on post-its and just say what we are grateful for well I am just curious to see how we get on.
With Paul's family I used to think it was quite painful and tedious how long they used to have to take opening one present. We'd have to take it in turns and watch the receiver struggling with the cellotape and wrapping paper after which it took another 5 minutes of them appreciating it. I was used to having a massive pile infront of me ripping them all open and looking at them later, so I did still engage with them but not at that moment. But now I so love this lesson in mindfulness the Tysons have taught me. Paul is an amazing present buyer, incredibly thoughtful with all his gifts and so appreciative of things generally, they have helped me over the years to slow down and notice more.
Yesterday when we had our New Year's Eve Christmas with them Joel who is 19 opened his calendar and I just watched the time he took to appreciate it, enjoy it and give thanks to Nanny Gill and Tom. I felt very inspired and this attitude of gratitude has encouraged me to always encourage my children to slow down and notice and take time over their gifts as I'd love them to get to 19 and behave in this way.
Tomorrow is a mystery, yesterday is history, but today is a gift.