Following on from last Friday's 'Bringing Up Independent Learners' I attended a parenting workshop with Mette entitled -
We learned how to -
Encourage a positive attitude and behavior in teenagers through effective communication
Support teenagers to become more responsible around the house
Support teenagers to develop a healthy sense of self-confidence through “Mindful Hang Out Time’ and problem solving.
Use effective tolls to increase what we want to see more of in our teenagers and less of the lippy attitude
Make commands more effective so that they will listen and communicate the first time, without having to nag or shout.
Discuss ways in which we can limit our own voice in the house and instead create a calmer and happier home.
Whilst I have a 10 and 9 year old I enjoyed getting a taste of what's to come and how to make positive changes now in anticipation.
On the back of this I also now have some teenagers coming over to do yoga with me which I'm really looking forward to.
I will be hosting Parenting Success Workshops from January 2016.
I spent the morning with my lovely friend Joey.
We met at a yoga class about 3 years ago shortly before I travelled to Africa. It was definitely a cosmic meeting. I climbed Kilimanjaro with Joey very much in mind as this was something she'd been training to do whilst she was living in South Africa, before other very sad events took over and bought her to the UK where she now lives.
It was sooo good to see her today and share some tears and laughter together and properly catch up.
She was concerned about me drinking decaf coffee and the toxic bleaching process it goes through, she talked to me about eating more of an alkaline diet and shared a book called 'What we Did To Beat Cancer' by Robert Olfent, which provides much thought on the effects of different food on our body.
Joey sent me on my way with this book and a pot of Spirulina and she has inspired me to get back on track with more healthy, wholesome eating.
I haven't sprouted beans for a while, I cheated and bought these today and will find my sprouter.
'You are the average of the five people you spend most time with' Jim Rohn
At this moment -
Who inspires you and who do you aspire to most?
Are they helping you to get you to where you want to arrive at next?
In what way do they challenge you move forward?
Will they be as influential in the future?
Or are you enough?
If you reflect on the many people who have come in and out of your life, I expect you will discover many of them have taught you some kind of a lesson. On occasion, when you find yourself with a whiny, negative or unkind person perhaps they have come along as a reminder of your darker side and are also a test of your compassion, non judgement or even mental toughness.
By deflecting these unpleasant behaviours and responding with integrity, grace and love we also help them to grow and learn as well.
Off to put the kids to bed, will they get my dark or light side?
I heard this a while back -
'oops I opened my mouth and my mother fell out'
I observe myself in my children all the time - the good, the bad and the ugly. As they've got older I am far more aware that I/we are modelling behaviours and attitudes for them and they watch every move and breath we take. The way I behave and handle things infront of them is their 'normal'. I know it's obvious but having kids really does hold a mirror up to yourself doesn't it?
Sometimes they'll say 'god mum you aren't being very mindful'
I usually now answer 'it's good you've noticed this and caught me, I'm learning from you two as well thanks, let me rewind and handle it in a different way.'
I'm learning as I go and they grow.
Mindfulness teaches you to become more a watcher of your mind and gives you the space sometimes that you need to respond not react. One of my favourite quotes/books is 'Let Stillness Speak' by Eckhardt Tolle.
Take a breath, find space and silence then respond.
I hope they notice.